You can’t break up a happy home…….?

Question

Do you agree with this?

Inspired by the drama that went down with Mashonda, Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats. Mashonda’s pretty much maintained from day one that things between her and Swizz were fine until Alicia came along. I can’t really disagree with that, considering I don’t know what went down, but how true can it be if he strayed (just playing devil’s advocate here lol)? What do you think? Do you have to be dissatisfied and unhappy to cheat? Or are there people out there who, despite having something great and solid going on, still want more?

p.s. I know this is old news, but I thought I’d revisit it with all the wedding rumors going on (between Alicia and Swizz).

Answer 1

Lets just be real for a moment....yes, it is possible - I mean, look at Alicia? she is beautiful, talented and happens to be in the same industry as Swizz. It is very possible that things were good at home, but time spent away due to business- with this woman- put things on a different track. He, as a husband should have left temptation alone, but he was obviously weak and gave in.



sure its possible.



Mashonda is truly a victim in this situation- but she seems to be holding up better than most would. I understand A-Keys is just in love and not really giving a hell right now, but it does not change the fact that she was a factor in the demise of that marriage. she was.



Also take into account he was carrying on with A-keys for 1 1/2 years. completely unfair. If it was such an unhappy union b-tween him and Mashonda- they should have been split long before now then. But, according to Mashonda, this is not the first time he has dogged her like this- he is the cause of her miscarrying a baby as well. (his eldest son is by another while Mashonda was preggo too-she stressed about it and lost hers. Sorry- aint no way I would have lost mine cause of no other chick)

See- he's no good- A-Keys is bouts' to find out- betcha.



add: no, I didn't know that Ello. she probably was there like a 2nd mom too- signs of a good woman trying to have her man's back regardlss of what he did, and giving love to an innocent child. I know some women who have been in those predicaments who are real cold about the relationship between the kid and the father. acting real ugly.



@ krs...Lol! I totally forgot she could sue A-keys. I say go for it! Did you know Fantasia is getting sued too? by the wife of her boyfriend. (dont know ho it turned out)

Money is a prime source of causing conflict and chaos in a relationship- so by hitting the womans pockets- thats a cold move, that any scorned woman with a vindictive side will do. like most of us. :)



add: Ello see, that is one thing women should never do- if you take a man back-dont treat his kid bad, they are innocent. I have a friend who forbid her husband to see his son (outside their marriage) and he did it too. I always thought that was wrong. Now, the kid is in his teens. still no contact.

Answer 2

This is tricky. First off everybody is different so we can't give a one size fits all answer as to why everybody cheated. Cocoa made a good point about being away from home too long and around a beautiful woman too much. It's a good point but personally (now this is just for me) that wouldn't hold water. I'm picky about women so if we got down in a relationship where you are my woman and I am your man then after that I might look but I don't touch.

One woman is more than enough for me. For me there definitely has to be a problem for me to want to cheat. Now the woman may not know there's a problem. She may not admit or be in denial about the problem but nonetheless there would have to be a problem.

For whatever it's worth, I think Mashonda had a problem with her relationship and is lying about that in an effort to bring credence to a law suit against Alicia. Why only get half of Swiss' doe when you can get a piece of Alicia's while your at it? Think about it. Just a sliver of Alicia's knot would be waaaay more than whatever Swiss was gonna have to break her off anyway. When I look at it like that it makes a lot of sense to me.



@ Cocoa - LOL at I don't know "ho" it turned out! Was that a Fraudian slip? Also, (on another note) did you know that wifey raising the side piece's baby was part of the plot in the Broadway stage play "Fences"? Denzel played that part so well he had the women in the audience cussing him out loud!

Answer 3

You don't have to be dissatisifed or unhappy to cheat though those are often reasons why people do.

Some people cheat for the thrill, or because they get caught up and it has NOTHING to do with their woman. A lot of people cheat and get caught, but they don't want the other person... They want their spouse.



That said, if someone is willing to leave their spouse of X amount of years for someone else, then I absolutely do think that it's because things are rocky.



And Mashonda is saying things were fine, but Swizz is saying he wasn't happy. Then I later read about Mashonda saying they were "working things out." So what is it? Were things fine? Or were you all working it out?



NO ONE can break up a happy home. Said persons in the happy home have to allow someone else to shake things up.

If I am married and my husband steps out, my beef isn't really with the other chick. It's with my husband because his loyalty should be with ME! And yes, I might want to lay hands on the chick depending on whether or not she knew about me, but really, I can't hold her accountable.



EDIT: Also, things weren't just peachy with Swizz Beats and Mashonda before Alicia stepped on the scene... He had BEEN stepping out and Mashonda chose to stay every time. So, what does that make Mashonda? Kept? Loyal? Stupid?



Cocoa -- Did you know that Mashonda actually NAMED the child that Swizz Beats had with that other woman?



2nd mom? IDK... Swizz also said that Mashonda was causing a rift in the relationship he had with his older son. She was trying to get him to choose between the two.



Who knows what really happened since their stories don't match.

Answer 4

I still love Alicia - but she is a hypocrite and I agree with Mashonda she's singing about trying to sleep with a broken heart and being free in yourself and she goes and does this.



If a home is happy then you can't break it because nothing is able to destroy the happiness of a family. If Mashonda and Swizz were living a happy life, with their child as well, then Alicia coming onto Swizz shouldn't have had any affect, unfortunately it did because Mashonda and Swizz may have had problems.



Of course you have to dissatisfied and unhappy to cheat, unless you are selfish - which I think Swizz is anyway because it doesn't seem like he considered his child in this circumstance.

Answer 5

From what i heard, they were having problems before alicia stepped into the picture. Now this is a problem (sorry) with women. Men have their own issues. But women have some problems with this. So much things they say they wont do and arent going to do and they know what that things arent working out. But instead of try to fix it, they complain and HOPE its gets better and things change for their benefit. And in some cases they don't offer any change themselves.



I was reading some ladies post and she was asked if she cooks and cleans for her man. and she responded, "if i don't somebody will" What you wont do for your man, somebody will. Whether its sex, or this position or you dont do this, you cant do that. It doesnt matter the minute you say no to something its a chance you can get replaced by somebody that says yes.



So to answer your question, no i don't believe you can break up a happy home. Cause in all honesty its not really hard to please men. Men want sex, food and sleep. But women feel like if you don't deserve that stuff, they arent going to give it to you, which is reasonable. But if you know what it takes a person to be happy and refuse to do it? i mean come on. I know being successful and having money in pocket to provide for my family and not having anybody support me will make me more valuable dating wise. I know what i have to do, i can take it or leave it.



Sometimes women watch too many shows or read too many novels. As alicia keys said you have know your womans worth and you have to treat your man just the same. if you don't give your not going to get.



edit: i seen something like this happen in person with two black girls and a married black men. It ended in cars being scratched, paint jobs jobs being ruined and tires being slashed. People need to realize messing with married people is never good!

Answer 6

I was just about to mention Alicia and Swizz. Swizz knew it was a upgrade!

Miss Keys is gorgeous and talented, who wouldn't get with her?

Answer 7

I definitely think A.Keys & Swizz should have controlled their emotions. The correct thing to do would have been for him to get a DIVORCE first. Of course, it's obvious that his marriage was in trouble before Keys came into the picture.



However, the bottom line is that Alicia was spreading her legs to a married man. Looks like she aint no "Superwoman" afterall..........

Answer 8

I know a lady who had the unfortunate same thing happen to her. She wound up pregnant and as soon as the baby was born, dad was gone. However at 16 years old and 17 at the time of her birth, she finished high school, joined the national Guard (U.S.) and used that extra money to go to college. She is almost done with her 2nd year of collage in being a veterinarian. She also works as a vet assistant near where i live. This young woman gives me hope for the future as she is so committed toi providing for her daughter. A broken home it may be but the heart, soul, faith in GOD and commitment to bettering oneself can do miracles for both the mother and the baby. I myself would try and be encouragement in helping out that single mother with your kindness and compassion as well. Here is an opportunity for you to be a great person. I myself come from a very happy home. Parents were kind and loving but never forgot discipline. All the neighborhood kids hung out at my parents house. My parents were married 49 years and still holding hands and kissing onto his death. The most i can do is keep you and your friends buddy as well as the baby in my thoughts and prayers as well as all those other babies and single mothers. Cheers, huggs, hopes and prayers to all those courageous mothers who decided life ( their babies) are more important than convience ( abortion).

Answer 9

I'm interested in this too

Answer 10

That is an interesting question, looking forward to reading the answers

Answer 11

idk there business but if you're married or in a good relationship you shoudnt leave your spouse just cause the grass looks greener on the other side.

Answer 12

*Ugh!! Same questions asked in a different way.*