Why is it when I join forums or groups, I don't get welcomed?

Question

So far I have joined a few forum and discussion groups of diverse topics and interests, and I never seem to get a personal welcome from the members. I am very nice and I don't post things that would give them a reason to dislike me. In fact, I would say I blend in almost too well, and members often treat me as if I were an old-timer instead of a newbie. I have noticed that sometimes when another newbie posts something that is a little more controversial or more likely to provoke an emotional reaction, they get welcomed much more readily.

This is not a huge deal but it is a mystery to me and I would appreciate it if you could help me figure this out.

Answer 1

a lot of groups get so many members who sign up but never get active; the active members are probably tired of welcoming fly-by-night people.



a lot of groups you have to jump in, feet first, and participate, to be noticed.

Answer 2

do you introduce yourself first?

If you just start posting, on some forums with so many members, they might just assume you've been a member for a while who has just been quietly watching until now.

Answer 3

you're not welcome here.-beat it!





no,really, If you are tring to join groups that you have a common interest with and seem to be "shunned"- I would bite the "pride bullet" and share your feelings with other members. Just try the direct human approach. usually people will be gracious.

Answer 4

maybe you should go the attention whore route since it seems like you are already leaning that way...



just make a "hi, newbie here! Come introduce yourselves!!!" thread...youll get your fifteen minutes...