Why don't parents like their kids dating outside their race?

Question

Why don't parents like their kids dating outside their race?

Answer 1

depends. I'm a first generation American, first one, My brother was born in the Caribbean. My parents are very old school and distrust certain people because their world was very small. I have visited my parents and brought girls home and to be honest all they want is someone who makes me happy. But face it, if u have not lived around blacks and only believed what the media tells you then you buy that crap and wuld not want your kid dating blacks, or Latinos, whatever. But I have been discriminated by my own kind. My ex girl was Colombian and her parents hated me because I was dark skinned and Dominican.

Another one's parents hated me because I wasn't a Jew. Hell people dislike each other for many reasons. When you're over 25 it will make more sense. when u have children of your own, it will make more sense.

My current girl's best friend is a typical NJ white girl. raised here by her Hungarian mom. Her mom HATES the fact the son is dating a THai girl, and marrying her. Why? She's an old school lady. U cannot change her mind, that's how she is. IS she racist? Maybe, who knows who cares but she brings my black looking **** butt food every day. She just is ignorant to things like that so I don't blame her. I have done volunteer work with the elderly and trust me, it's tough teaching old dogs new trix.

Answer 2

birds of a feather flock together.

A natural instinct.look at all the other mammals,lemurs don't sex up howler monkeys.duh

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with wanting to preserve your race or heritage. And nothing wrong with wanting your grandchildren to look like the rest of the family. It doesn't always happen that way, but still there is nothing wrong with wanting it.

Answer 4

Because they, like most other normal human beings, want to preserve their heritage. I wouldn't want my future children to date outside their race, either.

Answer 5

Parents will always protect their kids from negativity, but if you look around you'll see that there's a lot of people out there that can prove that dating outside of their race is just as normal as dating the same race..

Answer 6

Yeah, to preserve the heritage and life is much more easier when you're married to a person of the same race....you share the same culture, traditions and expectations.



I grew up with Black people but have never actually felt like one of them no matter how well they treated me. But this the complete opposite when I visit areas with the majority being my people. We understand each others language, history and family system.



It is NOT because of racism. Jheez. Why do some people think everything is racist? If a white person only wore white clothes than they would consider is racist.

Answer 7

Parents "always want the best" for their children. Some of those parents have pre-concieved notions about other races that are negative. My father has always had his own set of ...beliefs about white people, and has seriously tried to convince me of them my entire life. I wouldn't call him a racist, but he is definitely one biased mofo. Anyway, the love of my life is white, daddy got over it. End of story :)

Answer 8

because they want their grandchildren to look at bit like them



If you are black whats wrong with wanting your children or your grandchildren to be Black

Why is that racist

Answer 9

long story...

Answer 10

Good question. it's not just race it's things unknown to others. when i dated deaf guys, i don't think my family was too crazy about it. it's just a misunderstanding of stuff. race is no different & parents who are good will always be protective .



Now. my grandma has been the only one very forward about not liking her grandkids to date black guys. i'm not doing this to piss grandma off in any ay whatsoever, but i feel i could seriously end up with a black guy, he lives in my building & he's so mature. i think if he acts like the normal guy that he is, my grandma could change her mind, at least to the point where she'll accept it & realize it's not her life but mine.



Everyone has a personal taste and i have nothing against people excluding other races in their list of traits (that include race when on the superficial level). that's the beauty of the world, no one is the same & respecting peoples differences is the sweetness of romance. if a couple that is, for example, both white, and they have a best friend couple who is a black guy & a Spanish lady, then what's wrong with that! i like it because they wouldnt cheat on each other, right? awesome.

Answer 11

Out of ignorance. They do it out of ignorance purely. I mean what do you want me to say about it?! LOL Saying that they are not racist would be hypocrite, and that's something that I am not. lol First the new generations have a lot to teach the old ones, and second, anyone who's old enough to date is old enough to decide on who they're gonna date for themselves... duhhh I find it freaking mental that people still discuss these things really, I mean I never think about the colour of my skin, but it seems like in places like the States, for instance, people just can't seem to think about anything else. The American president is black, well would actually be considered mixed where I come from, and yet the american rate of mixed marriages should be like one of the lowest in the world! And you can't even blame it on old slavery for ever, freaking move on from it will ya!!! I mean I have, and I do bare both the master's and the slave's blood in my vains!!! Jesus... We really have to stop making phony excuses for ignorance and teach the old, and I am saying this to all races of all countries... I mean after all it is 2009 already for **** sake!!

Answer 12

a lot of times it can become problematic dating outside your race. many older people know how it is walking down the street lets say an all black neighborhood being with a white person. there's just so many differences that it can become hard and stressful being with that person. that doesn't make a person racist just being realistic but a lot of interracial dating works out for the best. i feel as long as you know where you come from then dating someone of another culture shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 13

Well first of all most people whether they admit or not are most comfortable with their own race and relate to their own race better...sometimes people of other races just don't "get" you because they have not come from the same background as you...it's like have you ever gotten sick of explaining yourself or defending yourself to someone else? It can be the same with dealing with people from other races...and that constant having to step out of your comfort zone can be stressful to some people...another reason is they start to question themselves on whether or not their race is "good enough" for you, otherwise you wouldn't search somewhere else...i am not saying that's the case or what you are conscientiously doing, but it can appear that way to parents and that hurts them.

Answer 14

Parents want to preserve their roots and believe their kids will have an easier time adjusting to a partner who is the same race as them.



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Answer 15

The parents who don't like kids dating "outside of their race" are racist. It doesn't get anymore simple than that.



There are different degrees of racism. There are few people these days who would say that they want zero contact with a person of another ethnic group, but there are plenty who do not even try to hide the fact that they don't want to date/marry a person of another ethnic group or have their children date/marry a person of another ethnic group. Both claims are racist. One, however, is considered more racist than the other. In the latter situation, one can claim "preference" in order to exempt themselves from the accusation as proven by the down thumbs below.



What does "preserving your race" even mean? And why does it matter what your grandchildren look like? This world, this world, this world. Why bother?

Answer 16

I think it's the culture difference.