what to do about a strange neighbour?

Question

It might seem that I am a curtain twitching busybody, but I am not honestly! There is this guy who lives opposite me and he is ...well strange. He never takes his trash out, never answers the door even to people who have good reason to call round. His living room is piled high with boxes and his house is a mid terrace and in bad repair! He will sit with his bedroom curtains open and the room is only lit by a low lit red light, at strange times of the day and night. He will just sit staring out of the window. When I get the late night bus he is sometimes on it and he always reeks of booze. He will often look at me in a very disconcerting manner.

Now I know all about the stories about people who put 2 and 2 together about 'odd neighbours' and get 10. However there is something really unsettling about him. What would you do in my position?

Answer 1

I can understand why your neighbour might appear strange, but it sounds to me like he may have additional needs, i. e. he could have a mental health problem or learning disability. The other thing that springs to mind is that he might be on the autistic spectrum... I'm just thinking of a neighbour I had years ago who displayed similar traits to what you've described - and we knew he had ASD.



There isn't anything you can do I'm afraid! He is entitled to live in his house just as much as you are. The only things that the local authority might be interested in is if you have good reason to believe that his lack of taking the rubbish out becomes a health hazard - in which case Environmental Health would be the people to contact, or if you had concerns about his welfare (Social Care). The staring might be socially inappropriate to you or I, but this is what makes me wonder whether or not he has additional needs... he may not have the capacity to know that his behaviour isn't appropriate. If this really became an issue then I suppose you could have word with you neighbourhood police officer (although if he does have additional needs then I'm not sure the police would have the tact to deal with the issue in the right manner).



Of course, I could be way of the mark with all of the above and you could just have an 'average Joe' living across the road who is just plain creepy! In which case, I'd definitely start keeping a log of any odd behaviours and let the police know if it persists.

Answer 2

It sounds interesting but however I think its best to stay out of this to be on the safe side. I know you're concerned incase it may be serious but Im sure its just the way the man wants to live Im not sure.

I think altogether leave it for a while and then if there is something which you see may be of concern then talk to another neighbour or someone who lives with you and discuss what you should do. Im sure its okay though. My sister had a neighbour who live opposite her too and her house was piled up with newspapers and I think some old papers but i think the council cleared it out and social services were contacted as it sounded more serious too the house didn't have electricity either and it was old and had original windows built maybe in the 30s old and torn. If you think it is serious then contact the council or social services but anonymously I think. Referring to my sister's neighbour I think the lady was put into a care home Im not sure. And you are not nosey just concerned its natural to feel like that.

Answer 3

hmm well i think he is going through this depression stage, if he smells of booze, he is obviously 1) depressed or 2) Alcholic. If he hasn't unpacked anything that means he really doesn't want to be there so he probably went through a horrid situation that made him move.



Well anywhoo, if i was in your position i would avoid him. Of course at certain hours of the day make keep an eye on him. He could have just gotten out of jail, went through a horrible divorce, or something. Just keep your doors locked and have a safety weapon..... he could be dangerous.

Answer 4

I don't know how any of this is your business. Obviously he's depressed and given up on life. Maybe his wife left him, or died, or something. You have no idea why he acts this way, but the drinking is a clear sign he's nursing his wounds.



Just let him be. No one likes a busybody!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

He sounds like one of life's inadequates. i'd just keep an eye open in case he hits trouble with looking after himself ie disappears for a while in which case alert social services.

Answer 7

If he bothers you that much, then you should consider finding a new place. Otherwise, just stay out of his way and mind your own business.

Answer 8

You are a nosy azz neighbor, mind yo business chick.



Ps-A concern neighbor wouldn't be gossiping about their neighbor to everyone, they would at least say hi to the guy and see where his mindset is at. You are just a nosy bytch tryna get dirt, and entertainment to quench your dull life.

Answer 9

I would always open my curtain with bright bulbs and go naked to show him that, at least, I am similar to him.

Answer 10

Well if I were in your position I'd mind my own business. The guy isn't harming anyone, leave him alone.

Answer 11

I would move.