How can I end my anger towards White females?

Question

I am a 17 year old girl(half Black & half Italian) and I know this sounds terrible, but I feel this immense anger towards all White girls. I feel that they are favoured too much in society, while us Black women are generally looked at as loud, ghetto and the least physically desirable to men. Before you label me as a hater(which I'm not sayin I'm not lol), just hear me out. Even Chris Rock was sayin "EVERYBODT LOVES WHITE WOMEN!"...Here where I live, White girls get all the guys, Black guys,White guys,Latino guys,Asian etc...While us Black chicks get nothing. Two guys(1 Black and one Latino) even told me straight up to my face that,"They do not date Black girls and White girls are the hottest"....Sigh, I know this anger is terrible and it's ruining my life...Plz help me!!!

Answer 1

I can understand your anger, but there are enough "white females" to take all of those guys. It isn't "White girls" scoring, it is blacks scoring. You are right. Everyone wants white girls, and black guys usually get the ones with the least self esteem. Another reason that black guys prefer white girls is because white girls don't understand black guys. Black women do!



Al you can do is not be ghetto acting, loud and obnoxious, work hard, study, and make something of yourself. If you get yourself straight, others will be attracted to you.

Answer 2

Let it roll off your shoulders*** because it is not like that everywhere. Blacks don't date out of their race as much as you would think. If you want a man...be confident and outgoing. Soon you'll be the new "it" girl and they'll come flocking to you like a stampede. Just be yourself and stop hating on the White girls..doesn't make life easier.



If these guys can't see other types of beauty you don't want them anyway, believe me. Life is too short for such matters. There's a billion men in this world.

Answer 3

Just think of all the things those 'white' girls have that you don't have.

Maybe these men (or boys) are just going through a phase and in the end they all go back to their roots anyway.

If you put all this energy into something else it would be better for you. And you will get the man you deserve, don't worry about that. No white girl could steal him away from you. Unless of course your hate and jealousy is so strong that it puts men off.

Answer 4

Well you need to move to michigan because it aint like that here.





``while us Black women are generally looked at as loud, ghetto and the least physically desirable to men.``

THATS NOT EVEN TRUE! Atleast here; i know lots of guys of different races who love black girls, and always saying how nice their a$$es are and stuff. But white girls get just as much guys..



You cant be mad at the white females in general; be mad at the guys who choose to be picky and shallow..

Answer 5

This sounds like an issue of where you are from. It is not like that everywhere. When you are grown and go off to college you will find that all women are equal some of the most beautiful women I have ever seen are not white. To me our features are plain and common while you got distinct features that make you different and beautiful. Do not hate anyone it takes from who you are and that can make you look and feel ugly to everyone. Just enjoy who you are and you will find men that think women of color are beautiful and desirable. Good luck

Answer 6

I think the people you need to be angry with is the men who decide to ONLY date white girls.... its not really the white girls fault. After all, white men also date black, hispanic etc. All black girls are not loud and ghetto just like all white girls are not trailer trash. Just open your mind a little more cause all that hate is bad for ya and its only hurting you... also I dont believe that black girls are the least desired and have heard that men like how forward some of you are and those booties! lol...

Answer 7

not all guys feel that way. Most men are attracted to the confidence and self esteem many white women have. Not all black women are "ghetto" just as not all white women are attractive. Just look at Tyra Banks or Jada Smith, they are beautiful. Be proud of who you are and carry yourself in a manor that emphasizes that. You will notice a world of difference in the way people see you.

Answer 8

Well first of all, I am Aussie, so I dont really know how things are in the United States with African Americans and whites and stuff.. but I´ll give this a go..



If I didnt know any better, as a non-North American, my perception of African American women would be exactly the one that you say- loud, crude, and ghetto. Unfortunately, people get off on making and watching stupid shows like "I Love New York", "Flavor of Love" and all those talk shows where the majority are loud, poorly spoken, slutty African American women. Im not saying that White North American women arent slutty, loud, etc as well.. but its just what gets put out there. Its a kind of stereotype that people love to put in TV shows, and people eat it up. I know that there are well-spoken, classy, intelligent black women out there... but I guess they just dont make good TV.



All in all, I think this is kind of damaging to African American women in relationships, employment, etc. It affects people´s perceptions of them and creates a stereotype, and white women are probably just seen as being "less dramatic" and "less maintenance".



So maybe instead of hating white women, you could turn to hating people that bastardise African-American women for entertainment purposes and to make money from it, because it definitely has its effects in society... Im not even North American, but I think the way African American women are portrayed is disgusting and a gross misrepresentation of what theyre really like. Get in on that cause and use your energy in a good way, instead of blindly hating other races.

Answer 9

You make it sound like black females are inferior or something. LOL. You should love yourself and stop worrying about other people. Don't put all your time and energy into anger, instead start thinking positive. Don't let people get you down, its all part of the oppression and so as black women we have to be confident in ourselves. When you send post like this you contribute towards the negativity.



I'm not convinced that its really a black girl posting this......

Answer 10

Its just what everyone else said...Its where you live. My boyfriend is white and his friends are costantly asking me if I know any black girls that they can meet lol. The one guy above who said he is an Aussie had it right; it is how we're portrayed in the media that scares off a lot of people who are feeble minded and impressionable enough to be believe that we are all loud, tacky, and ghetto. Once you leave your community and how black women are appreciated in other towns and cities, you will definitely feel more confident in your own skin and see that a lot of people are attracted to us! Your anger is understandable, but you have to realize that you are desired by many across the world. The world isn't just in your town. You're 17; my advice is to leave your town when you graduate and experience college elsewhere so you can meet people from all over who have diverse tastes and mindsets. I travel a lot and I see that our beauty is appreciated by many, overseas and in America.

Answer 11

Those people are just brainwashed. Do you want a a man that wants you because it's the trend or because he really cares for you? And it's really not as bad as you think it is. Some guys aren't into white girls.

Answer 12

im biracial to, black & white. i think its the area you live in. im from a mostly black neighborhood & the black males hardly went out with white women. do you think this anger is from not being totally comfortable with yourself???? dont fall into that loud, ghetto sterotype. be yourself & accept yourself for who you are & dont worry bout "them girls". good luck :)

Answer 13

ha ha! that's news to me...i'm 100% italian & all the men i know LOVE black women...cuz they have the hottest bods, etc.! also, in my neck of the woods...black women get MUCH MUCH more than white women...i guess it all depends where you are.

Answer 14

i dont believe you for some reason. And you need to get over it. There are TOO MANY people in the world and probably in your town to be acting like that. come on now.

Answer 15

my reality as a black girl is very different from yours. No offense but i think you may be a white girl trying to tell us Black girls are least desirable

Answer 16

There is not a damn thing wrong with how u feel towards white girls. But u have to do it with your brain. Kill them with logic and first understand them. I feel you. I work with all white folks and they think they are the bomb. I'm always schooling them on how their history is dirty. It's fun because in a way i'm reeducating them.



I find it funny that where u live, whit girls are preferred. It is quite the opposite where i live. In the Bay Area no one dates white girls. Well i would not say no1, but around here white girls are considered dirty and ugly and skinny etc.......



Black and Latino girls run it out here. Not one f my homies ever dated a white chic and we are proud of that fact.



It's all good mommy you are the bomb, it is just your area where u live that is weak. Like i said, kill them with kindness. They will never see it coming. PEACE!

Answer 17

get the **** over it you control your emotions

Answer 18

*Sigh* If only You knew what it was like to be as attractive as I am *long sad sigh*